SINGAPORE: A Singaporean girl has admitted that she has began questioning her relationship after seeing numerous social media posts of her mates being pushed round by their boyfriends.
Posting on Reddit’s ‘Ask Singapore’ discussion board, the lady, who’s in her late 20s, shared that her boyfriend doesn’t personal a automobile, one thing that genuinely by no means mattered to her after they first bought collectively.
“Having a automobile or no automobile was not vital to me once I first met him. He additionally doesn’t earn a lot in addition to a level grad. I personally as a diploma grad earn barely much less in comparison with him,” she wrote.
For the longest time, she mentioned she was glad and completely content material. However someplace alongside the way in which, countless social media posts from mates and colleagues displaying their boyfriends behind the wheel slowly planted seeds of doubt.
Whether or not it was brief Instagram reels of highway journeys, late-night drives, or the easy act of being picked up after work, she discovered herself questioning why one thing she had by no means cared about was out of the blue bothering her.
“They prefer to submit a video or brief reel of their boyfriend driving them. Earlier than y’all say something, sure I do know comparability kills happiness. However someway after seeing all these on social media, I’m not positive how I really feel now and why I really feel this manner.”
“I didn’t have such a sense earlier than about whether or not my boyfriend drives or not; I used to be really glad, however now I’m not so positive.”
She added that even when her boyfriend may afford a automobile, he most likely wouldn’t be driving anyway.
After being collectively for the previous one and a half years, she has come to consider that driving merely isn’t considered one of his strengths.
In accordance with her, he’s “the clumsy sort and never sharp in reactions,” so she feels it might be unsafe for him to be taught to drive.
Looking for views, she requested fellow Singaporeans: “Is it true that SG ladies would principally select a man with a automobile as their relationship accomplice?”
“Folks solely present the most effective a part of their lives on social media”
Dozens of Reddit customers weighed in after the submit was printed on Sunday (Jul 19), and lots of felt the lady was letting social media get into her head.
A number of mentioned that if a couple of Instagram reels had been sufficient to make her query an in any other case glad relationship, then the difficulty was greater than whether or not her boyfriend owned a automobile.
“This merely means you don’t love him as a lot as you assume,” one informed her.
One other mentioned, “If my accomplice feels that proudly owning a automobile is [an] vital standing, then I’ll ask her to marry the automobile as a substitute. I do personal a automobile and bike, however I see it as a transportation instruments. I’m completely nice with taking public transport.”
A 3rd added, “First, it begins with a automobile; additional down the highway it’s going to be the home, the vacations, and the hobbies they will afford. Should you aspire to maintain up with the Joneses, go research and work more durable to afford it or do your boyfriend a favour and break it off to search for somebody richer which you could flex on social media.”
In the meantime, a couple of others gently reminded her that whereas proudly owning a automobile is good to have, it’s hardly a necessity in Singapore.
One consumer defined, “Having a automobile is extra handy and presents privateness, particularly when you have a household, eg, youngsters and aged, however it’s not essential; there are far much less Singaporean automobile homeowners than you’d think about. When you’ve settled down, you might be the driving force, and he can share the price of sustaining the automobile.”
“Folks solely present the most effective a part of their lives on social media, and the worst elements uncovered by others; there are boyfriends and husbands who’re untrue to their companions even when they personal a automobile.”
In different information, conversations concerning the ‘Upkeep of Dad and mom Act’ have re-emerged on-line, following a pissed off son’s submit on Reddit the place he expressed his reluctance to “look after” or “help” his 50-year-old father, who reportedly by no means offered any type of help to the household.
In a submit on the r/askSingapore discussion board, the son defined that his father doesn’t work, and each try and coax him into discovering a job has failed.
Learn extra: Redditor says he has ‘little or no love’ for absentee father, asks about Upkeep of Dad and mom Act
